|HALLELUJAH FOR SAYING GOOD-BYE TO MUDDIED RELATIONSHIPS. I'm celebrating the transformation that comes from letting go of relationships no longer functioning! (Art by Hallelujah Truth)|
Today's writing prompt from Kat McNally's REVERB13 (Day 12) is this:
Identify something muddy that kept recurring for you throughout 2013, and then ask yourself this: What's the clear truth underneath this mud if I finally wash myself clean?
Yes, dear Pilgrims, there is the messiness of some thing, relationship, act, or hope that is degrading, disassembling, and falling to pieces. Yet, in this "muddied" state, there is the heating up, the composting at the center. If we allow ourselves, we can WITNESS a TRANSFORMATION, like a burst of flames.
|BURST OF FLAMES|
The MUD I found myself composting in 2013 was a heap of relationships that lacked GRACE. No matter what action I took or words I said inside of these friendships made any difference. The relationships were MUD, and I believe this perception of MUDDINESS was mutually shared by all of us.
In the past, I would I would have lingered longer with these friends trying to engineer a solution to "clean" things up, bring us good cheer, and ensure future well-being to us all. At least that's what I BELIEVED I could do.
In 2013, I practiced SAYING GOOD-BYE to MUDDIED relationships, walking away from them, leaving them rich in scraps from the good times, heaped in the leftovers from the garden at the end of a good growing season. No more wrestling with making something grow that needs to be left on its own--to compost and become something else for another time.
I feel sad about the loss of these friendships as I write this but resolved. Our lives can be filled with the magic of TRANSFORMATION if we allow them to be. Perhaps the clarity I have after being MUDDIED in these relationships is this:
I'm giving up being an engineer, artificially structuring and restructuring muddied relationships. I'm becoming something more like an organic gardener in relationships--a big believer in seasonality, weeding, resting, and composting.
|LOOKING FOR TRANSFORMATION, GROWTH|
Who knows what will grow relationship-wise from this new resolve?
That's Coffee with Hallelujah! SOUL BLOG with me and tell me about the muddiness you've gone through in 2013 to reach some new clarity.